The big block crossmember hangs lower than the crossmember for a small block. If a small block crossmember is used the shifter will contact the trans tunnel because the entire trans is higher than its supposed to be. You could trim the hole in the trans tunnel so the shifter will not contact it, but that is not a good idea for two reasons. One your hacking up your car and two the driveline angle is changed, which isn't good either. I have talked with one person who said they have used the incorrect crossmember without any probelms, but I would rather do it the correct way.
The big block crossmembers are stamped with 390STD on them, but I have read there are other crossmembers that will. I understand Mansfield Mustang sells the crossmeber we need.