Author Topic: Help!!!! (Read 734 times)

67 evil eleanor · « **Reply #25 on:** January, 12, 2012, 06:43:04 AM »

Thanks, I will show her the photo. I'm trying to think of a way to have one of my state buddies come by and give her another talk, this time from someone she doesn't know. Like I said before, I'm not sure that she was very receptive to the a** chewing she was given and afraid it didn't make much of an impact. BTW, her car is mine for the next few months, sitting there for to look at but not drive. Dang, another thousand grey hairs.

I just made that photo the background.

blue65coupe · « **Reply #26 on:** January, 12, 2012, 06:48:09 AM »

Remember, we've all done it. It scares me to death to think that my kids will do some of the same stupid stuff I did and not get as "lucky" as I was. The best thing I can think to do is talk to them as a concerned father. Punishment for the crime but hopefully sincere talks will go a long way.

blue65coupe · « **Reply #27 on:** January, 12, 2012, 06:48:57 AM »

Quote from: 67 evil eleanor on January, 12, 2012, 06:43:04 AM

I just made that photo the background.

Maybe it will strike a chord.

KBMWRS · « **Reply #28 on:** January, 12, 2012, 07:28:19 AM »

On another note may I suggest.....only if you think she will re receptive to it in a positive way and not a sign that she can do more....is to sign her up for driving school. Not normal driving school but controlled driving school. Such a endevour might enlighten her as to the complexities of good driving.

My daughter lost control of my '89 T-bird while exiting the school parking lot. She drove through some water and then tried to accelerate. Quick fishtail and telephone pole.

We then signed her up for Skip Barber's driving school. More of a controlled driving school rather than racing. She learned a lot about braking, controlling skids and the limits of different cars (Neon, small pick-up, Viper).

She learned that along with her accident (almost hit pedestrians), which instilled understanding of the legal, financial and physical consequences, she now had an understanding that driving means more than just a small card you keep in your wallet.

No she and her husband are avid motorcyclists and she understands all the parameters that brings.

BobV · « **Reply #29 on:** January, 12, 2012, 08:34:50 AM »

http://www.streetsurvival.org/ is a good program...

Lemondrop · « **Reply #30 on:** January, 12, 2012, 03:30:05 PM »

Shame you don't own an electronic Caterpillar Diesel truck engine. They have been able to set max vehicle speed since around 1988, with built in protections for loss of vehicle speed sensor. If the VSS fails, you limit the RPM of the engine to a pre-set speed which keeps drivers from tampering with the VSS.

I have yet to understand why the manufacturers have all not made this a part of their PCM/ECM programs.

stump · « **Reply #31 on:** January, 13, 2012, 11:10:39 AM »

Quote from: Laurie S. on January, 11, 2012, 06:27:35 PM

Two words: bus pass.

Exactly!!!! Don't treat the symptom, treat the cause...

ko67 · « **Reply #32 on:** January, 13, 2012, 03:35:41 PM »

Quote from: stump on January, 13, 2012, 11:10:39 AM

Exactly!!!! Don't treat the symptom, treat the cause...

Right. The cause of all of this was that she was stopped by the police for speeding. You need to treat the cause and get her a really good radar detector.

FordDude · « **Reply #33 on:** January, 13, 2012, 09:06:11 PM »

I have been following this thread and I guess that it is time that give my opinion. First off you are damn lucky to have a friend like the one you have, he just saved you a ton of money. That being said I think that her punishment should be what the law would have given her. Loss of her license until the age of 19? Then it should be taken away. Jail time? Then I say house arrest, only allowed out to go to school. Sell the Mustang, OK not really, but make her think that you did. Put it in storage somewhere. Then for her probation make her do the community service at the morgue.

I also have a teenage daughter, just one. She is 18 and going to college. I know that she drives above the speed limit, I am hoping no triple digits (but she drives a Focus not a Mustang). I have told her that if she gets a speeding ticket she will be on her own paying for the ticket and any increase in my insurance. She has a 22 mile commute to the university and 3 days a week leaves at 4am ish for 5am practice. Part of the freeway is under construction, so the speed limit drops to 55. I am sure that she does 70-75 the whole way. What can I say like father like daughter.

fd

gtscode · « **Reply #34 on:** January, 20, 2012, 02:06:55 AM »

No offense but what do expect giving her such a fast car at that age. Not just physically fast but a car people expect to go fast. You can do 100+ in a Volvo too.

Now that said, better to do it in that car then the '78 Camaro I was doing it in. (I wanted a Mustang but couldn't afford one). I too had to pay for car, gas and insurance.

17 is a tough age kids do think they are invinsible. I would sit her down and talk to her, if you can't rationalize with her and trust her then I would rethink the car completely.

The guy who bought my S60R for his 16 year old daughter had no idea what he was buying her. I told him hey this is a fast car, but I didn't want to ruin the sale so I let it go after a couple of comments. Wonder how it has gone for him???